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Saturday, May 06, 2006

Book Review

Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God by CJ Mahaney.

I received this book at the Together for the Gospel Conference, and decided to read it next, for the following reasons:

    1. I like CJ.
    2. I like the topic.
    3. I figured it would generate some web hits. (I still occasionally receive hits from my Praying for Pornstars post.

Every man probably sees the title of the book and wants to read it, yet is inwardly thinking he is probably qualified to write the book himself. However, CJ regularly reminds men: Before you touch her body, touch her heart and mind. Good marital sex (for it is the only kind capable of being good) is the outflow of a good marriage.

As I read the book, I was struck that I am pretty lazy and selfish. For those who know our story, my wife is a treasure; a woman I dreamed of spending time with for years before we even started to date. She is, quite honestly, the greatest physical representation of the fact that God treats me far better than I deserve. She is a joyous reminder to me of the grace God has bestowed on me, by dying to pay my penalty while I was His enemy. God's salvation offer is truly the greatest gift I have ever known. That He would choose to save me, and then give me Charity as a bride is easily the second greatest wonder in my life (and undoubtably a great wonder to all who have witnessed it!). Yet, lazily, I do not remind my bride of this fact nearly enough. I don't do enough to let her know she is still treasured.

Last night, as per CJ's advice, Charity and I hit a restaurant. The entire trip I'm thinking of the question he advised, that I know I need to ask. Eventually, I sputter it out:
What areas in my life do you see that I could improve to be a better husband, father and pastor? (Preferably to be addressed in that order.)
Very graciously, she pretended that she had to think about it. She gave a couple of brief answers and then paused. "Do you know how great it is that you would even ask me that?"

Thanks CJ for this book. I'm glad I read it. It's not about having more sex. It's not even about getting along better with your spouse. It's about having the kind of marriage that exibits Christ's love for the Church. As God allows, I pray we can have that effect on people. (Hey, at the least, people will get a glimpse of God's grace when they see me walking with her!)


  • At 6:46 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I was there from the start when you started talking about Charity and how special she was. To be quite honest I didn't think you had a chance with her. She was older (sorry Charity), popular, talented and pretty. You, well, you were in middle school and "still under construction" (Did I ever ask you to forgive me for buying your eye glasses three sizes to big so that you could grow into them??????)
    I am not sure when all that changed but I love remembering when you two got together. Dad remembers that time too but for another reason......
    I too am blessed by your wife and how she supports your walk with the Lord.(not to mention the BEAUTIFUL grandchildren that have come from your union)
    Charity and John are an answer to our prayers for our children.

  • At 7:21 PM, Anonymous mcgriff said…

    dude, I was going to say the same thing...I never thought you stood a chance with her either. Shows you how much I know. God has been gracious to you and me as I truly and honestly do not deserve Angie either.

    By the way mrs. Moe - I thought those glasses were cool! I still have a picture someone took of both of us in our "under construction" years.

  • At 8:35 AM, Blogger Gary Underwood said…

    Cavs 4, Wizards 2.

    Pistons 1, Cavs 0.

  • At 12:56 PM, Blogger Charity said…

    Was that one of CJ's tips on how to get more play from your wife? Just publish some really nice things about her and she's putty in your hands . . . (Well, it's working!)

  • At 4:56 PM, Blogger danny2 said…

    whoo hoo!!!!!!!


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